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Tuesday, 9 May 2017

Boys Don't Cry by Tim Grayburn #bookreview

About Boys Don't Cry

Boys Don't Cry is a book that will make sense of depression and anxiety for people who might not recognise those feelings in themselves or others.

Suicide is the single biggest killer of men aged 20-45 in the UK. Depression and undiagnosed mental illness are huge contributors to these deaths as they're often more difficult to diagnose in men. And those men don't tend to talk about the typical symptoms or visit their doctor.

Meet Tim.

For nearly a decade he kept his depression secret. It made him feel so weak and shameful he thought it would destroy his whole life if anyone found out.

And Tim is not alone.

After finally opening up he realised that mental illness was affecting many men around the globe - and he knew that wasn't ok.

A brutally honest, wickedly warming and heart-breaking tale about what it really takes to be a 'real man', written by one who decided that he wanted to change the world by no longer being silent.

This is Tim's story, but it could be yours too.

My review of Boys Don't Cry

Boys Don't Cry is a poignant, honest and incredibly heartbreaking account of living with clinical depression and acute anxiety. Tim Grayburn writes with honesty, rawness and humour. I read the book with tears in my eyes, some tears were due to laughter, others because of what Tim lived though in isolation and silence, as he was ashamed to tell others about how he felt. This book well and truly breaks down all walls.

Before I write the rest of my review, I just want to state that this book is a must read for everyone. It really is such an important book about mental health and the fact that there is no shame, or stigma, in seeking help and support.

When I first saw the blurb for Boys Don't Cry I knew that I needed to read this book. My knowledge about clinical depression is very limited, information that was barely covered while doing my general nurse training many years ago. I have slightly more knowledge about anxiety, as my youngest son is autistic, and a huge part of his life is controlled by his anxiety. But, I wanted to know more about 'young men and depression' as I have two boys, plus the fact that autistic individuals are statistically more likely to suffer from depression.  I need to be more aware, and I know that reading personal  accounts is the best way for me to gain useful and credible knowledge, much more useful than reading a textbook on the subject.

Tim's personal account is powerful and poignant. The book deals with his life before diagnosis, during diagnosis and his life now. I was so happy to read that he is now in a good place, that he has a wonderful, caring wife and a gorgeous little boy.

This is an incredibly raw account of life with depression. On paper you might think that this kind of book wouldn't contain many laughs, but you would be wrong to assume so. This is a funny book, and an incredibly uplifting one, that pulls no punches, but is funny at the sane time. Tim writes with humour, detailing his many escapades as a young man, which help to shed light on what life it is like for young people living with depression.

It's an incredibly engaging book, one that I found hard to put down. Tim writes so well, the words flow, and I really felt that I got to know the real him. Ultimately though, I felt that I got a clear insight into what it must be like to live with depression and anxiety. I will never fully understand, but I now feel more aware of what signs to look out for, and what help and support I can offer.

I really do think that it takes much courage for anyone to write about their mental health so candidly. I really do feel that Boys Don't Cry will help those individuals who feel alone, who feel that they cannot talk about their mental health. I hope now that they can do so.

Boys Don't Cry is an important book, an honest book and one that I feel everyone should read, so as to end the stigma that is associated with mental health issues. The strong message from this book is that we all need to talk about metal health...let's end the silence.

Boys Don't Cry, published by Hodder & Stoughton on May 4, 2017. A link to the book on Amazon can be found here.

With thanks to the publisher and Bookbridgr for the proof copy.

About the Author

Tim Grayburn is a man. He's a dad, a brother and a son too. After working in advertising for ten years he quit the rat race to perform around the world in the award-winning show Fake it 'Til You Make It. This is his first book.

1 comment:

  1. This is such an important area of mental illness to shed light on. Well done to Tim Grayburn for doing so and to you for spreading the word with such a thoughtful and well written review. It will be going on my TBR. Thanks.